commitment, marriage & kids

holding little cayden in my hands, all of 2.6kg makes me weak inside... why? 'cos of the enormous responsibility of caring & loving for him and that is a life-long commitment for his parents.

i mean children are for keeps. they depend on you come rain or shine, 24/7. it's a huge responsibility that i can't imagine taking any time soon. it's not that i don't like children or is helpless around them [i've helped to look after my sis from young, there's a 10-year gap between us]. i feel that this commitment is so much greater than marriage.

to marry someone, you're already committing to your spouse to be there for him/her in sickness & in health, in poverty & in wealth... remember your wedding vows? in the worst-case scenario if ever, you divorce and life goes on after you mend your broken heart. you know your spouse will survive without you, somehow.

but kids? nope, they're dependent on you for their every needs & wants. financial concerns aside, how do you make sure that they're brought up to become well-adjusted adults and productive members of society? are there courses for parents to enrol in?

don't think i'll be ready for that... or is any parent ever ready for it? and i applaud couples who answer the call of the government for national service to boost the population. give me my m16 any time, i'll rather die for the country so to speak. :P

a colleague remarked that i'll be ready when i meet the right person & when the time is right. is there a right person & the right time? will i know it when the right person comes along or when the timing is perfect?

till then, call me a commitment-phobe. ;)

new bundle of joy

1 more addition to the 2nd generation of jcgang. this time round by janet & jason. congrats to them on the birth of their son. ain't he cute? i love babies... only when they behave.

my close friends from jc all named their children with "j" names. starting with janine, janelle, joshua and jerrell. i'm still rooting for a "j" name, janet, as is the rest of the gang. but think this little guy is growing up as "cayden" most likely.

suk 11 @ bangkok

went to bangkok for a short trip. my virgin flight on a budget airline, jetstar asia. the flight was alright and the crew polite. seat space is still bearable for a 2-hour flight. paid s$2 for a can of green tea. was plugged into my zen micro for my in-flight entertainment.

got to save on the accomodation as i was bunking in with my friend who is there for a conference. then from the 5 star luxury hotel, we extended our stay at suk 11, a budget backpacker kind of accomodation. paid only s$20 a night for an air-conditioned room with attached bathroom.

bangkok was hot, hot, hot! did the usual singaporean circuit of thai massage [cheap!], mbk [crowded!] and chatuchat weekend market [cheap, crowded & hot!].

also went to vertigo, at the rooftop [literally] of banyan tree hotel for drinks. my first time there... nice!