holding little cayden in my hands, all of 2.6kg makes me weak inside... why? 'cos of the enormous responsibility of caring & loving for him and that is a life-long commitment for his parents.
i mean children are for keeps. they depend on you come rain or shine, 24/7. it's a huge responsibility that i can't imagine taking any time soon. it's not that i don't like children or is helpless around them [i've helped to look after my sis from young, there's a 10-year gap between us]. i feel that this commitment is so much greater than marriage.
to marry someone, you're already committing to your spouse to be there for him/her in sickness & in health, in poverty & in wealth... remember your wedding vows? in the worst-case scenario if ever, you divorce and life goes on after you mend your broken heart. you know your spouse will survive without you, somehow.
but kids? nope, they're dependent on you for their every needs & wants. financial concerns aside, how do you make sure that they're brought up to become well-adjusted adults and productive members of society? are there courses for parents to enrol in?
don't think i'll be ready for that... or is any parent ever ready for it? and i applaud couples who answer the call of the government for national service to boost the population. give me my m16 any time, i'll rather die for the country so to speak. :P
a colleague remarked that i'll be ready when i meet the right person & when the time is right. is there a right person & the right time? will i know it when the right person comes along or when the timing is perfect?
till then, call me a commitment-phobe. ;)
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